I cry as I type the heading of this blog. Seriously I did. I was so jealous of this friend of mine who wanted to be friends with me. She came from a loving family who loved everyone who came into their home. I am sure I am not the only person with a best friend you envied. You envied them because of the life they had. I was one of those people. God I wished I had the loving family she had who loved anyone that came into their home.

I couldn’t imagine having such a loving family as theirs. This family did not judge now care what kind of background you came from. This family consisted of my bestie, her mom and dad, and her brother and two other sisters. Damn I loved them all and they loved me for who I was.

I was so jealous of my friend. I felt like she had everything. A very loving family who all accepted me for me. They had the perfect white picket family. The parents had never divorced. They were not mean to their children. All the siblings absolutely loved one another. They also showed love to non-family members. Being in this household gave me hope.

This family had so much love in their family. To me, I felt they were rich, something I not ever imagine. I was not the only friend my bestie had who was not rich. She had another friend whom I also loved. I felt like I belonged with the three of us.

I texted this friend of mine who I believe was always my jealous knight in shining armor. Come to find out, she envied me and her/our other friend. I sit here writing and thinking. We see what is going on very differently. Our views on life events are so viewed differently.

I would like for everyone to view who they are jealous of. Talk to who is involved in their jealously and see there side. After 50 years, I had no idea that someone could be as jealous of certain parts of my life.

When we are jealous of someone and the life they live, talk to them. See how they view their life, and you may change your mind. You may understand that parts of your life may not have been as bad as they seemed.

After 50+ years of having this friend in my life, never would I have realized she envied me too.

Ask questions to the people you have been jealous of, you realize that you are almost equals. Distancing yourself from your once best friend was all in your overthinking mind. Please reconnect with the friends who you thought were better than you.

I love you Mich, Kelly and all my high school friends for the friendship we have cherished for over 50 years, even though they are distant now. Never shut someone out or uninvite them to gatherings, as they are precious to those uninvited.

Do not forget those you have had a close relationship with. Your thoughts are not the same as theirs and friendships should last forever.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons,

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSc(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counselor