When someone says they are defeated or they feel defeated, I instantly think they are giving up.  I felt defeated most of my life until I finally realized I was giving up on myself and my dreams. 

We can lose at a game and say we have been defeated, but we can also say we lost that game and try to win at the same game. I mean think about it….If you are playing a game of Monopoly and you lost everything, would you never play that game again because you were defeated? That is not highly likely to happen, but I bet you do play that game again sometime down the road and one day you will win. That feeling of success rushes through your body like nobody’s business. 

Our life is like a game and we can either let life defeat us or we can rise above the defeat until we become successful or overcome the feeling of defeat and try a different avenue. We only allow ourselves to feel defeated. 

Most of us try something and when we become defeated we quit. Let’s go back to the game of Monopoly, the next time you play the game, I bet you don’t play the exact same way, I bet you play with a different strategy to see if you can get further in the game and possibly win. This holds true with life….if you are not successful the first time trying something, don’t rush into trying to do it again and see what happens. Figure out a different strategy and try again and again and again. 

Giving up and feeling defeated the first time around is exactly…giving up without trying again. You are failing yourself and not giving yourself enough credit trying again by trying different strategies.  

Reach out to others if you feel defeated, ask questions, figure out where you could change to advance to succeed, research why you believe you didn’t succeed the first second or third time and keep trying. 

Don’t give up on yourself the first try…You are worth trying until you succeed, which can take numerous times, but if you quit and don’t try again….how will you ever know if you could have succeeded. Don’t be someone who says in the future, “I should have, If only I would have, or I could have,” Be the hero in your story. YOU ARE WORTH THE EFFORT.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons,

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSc(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counselor