Every day we experience processing and releasing thoughts and feelings. There are healthy and effective ways to process and release our daily events. Although there are many types of thought processing skills, reflective thinking is what I want to focus on today.

What can get us into trouble is when we react to something without processing it first. Learning to process and release daily events takes time and a lot of patience. Every day we have challenges at work, with family, friends, strangers, and with ourselves. The first step is realizing what is bothering us and process the situation without reacting out of anger and/or stress. Reflective thinking helps us to find reasonings to solve problems.

Reflecting thinking is taking the experience and/or memory which bothers you,

acknowledging the event and write down how you feel about the issue, how can you

move past the issue, and how can you release the issue to have no control of you.

Sometimes we honestly do not have time to process how we want to react right away, which is why training your mind to process quickly is essential. Learning positive processing trains our brain to become less negative. In all honesty, sometimes I have to process a situation that bothered me during the day after I get home, or later on that day. What I have learned is not to react hastley to situations because I do have control on my reactions.

Many of us bury thoughts that bother us. I know I buried my childhood memories

without processing them and letting them go, which only caused me mental and

emotional problems. I know I reached the process and release when I found out my real

Father passed away on St. Patrick’s Day this year. I received a text stating he passed and

although I had a flood of horrible memories regarding him, I felt at peace without

becoming angry at him. I had finally realized his narcissistic personality no longer

affected me allowing me to become the person I am today.

I wish I would have realized the process and release when I was younger, but I did not

grow up with positive adults in my life.

Remember to take a deep breath when something or someone upsets you, take time to

reflect on what happened, feel your feelings, but don’t react hastily towards those

feelings and seek help if you need someone to help you learn to let go of harsh past life

events so the event does not control you, your life or your future as I did for over

forty years.

I am so proud to say I processed and released the hatred I had for this man after forty

years of life and began living life without thinking I was worthless as he made me feel.

If you are having trouble processing and releasing anything that is holding you back

from living your best life, please seek out counseling or find someone you can talk to

without being judged. Reflective thinking can be painful at the beginning, but once you

realize how strong you are and how valuable you are…You will be a much stronger

individual living the best life you can live.

Look at the big picture and see what is holding you back. What emotions do you need

to work on, what do you do during the day that you wish you would have done

differently. Replace a deep breath instead of a spontaneous reaction, walk away from

drama and irritation in your life. Reflective thinking will reward you with love and

happiness. You are worth happiness.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons,

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSc(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counselor