Sometimes we need validation. Sometimes we just need people to reach out, tell us everything is OK and sometimes we just need the reminder that we are loved and worthy. Validation is checking on yourself asking….”Are my feelings justifiable and are my actions worthwhile.”

Growing up without compliments did a number on me. Sadly, I seeked validation for most things I did after I was on my own. My heart has been broken numerous times while seeking validation. I have learned most people who grow up with close family relationships do not seek validation as much as people who grew up unnoticed in families who do not recognize you exist. Why is that you may ask? It is because families who love their family members acknowledge them, compliment them, encourage them, and are proud of them.

Families which are not close make you feel invisible.

Validation is communication. You all know I am a huge believer in communication. Validation is telling someone you care and/or have interest in what they are doing. Validation is important in a relationship, workplace, with family and friends and with yourself.

Validation can be negative or positive. Validation is the way we process our actions, words, and the actions and words of others. Stepping back to analyze what we say and do is important validation.

I grew up wanting validation for just being me….What I learned later on in life is I only need validation from myself. Yes, hearing someone praise you is uplifting, but we all need to remember…If we believe in ourselves, validate we are worthy, show we are strong and teach positive validation to others…We can live a wonderful and happy life.

Validation comes from the heart, learning from one another’s feelings, understanding without judgment and learning to understand conflicts without anger. Be mindful of your actions towards others and pay attention to what others say. Give one another validation that you care and you are listening.

“Do not drown in the water or sink in the sand….Your expectations are worthy and you should not settle for the sake of settling.” Alexis

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons,

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSc(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counselor