I have counseled thousands of people and have done thousands of group counseling

during my life. If you ask anyone I have counseled, “What does Alexis say at the end of

counseling,” most will say, “We are all perfectly imperfect.” I love this saying and I

have said it for a long time. Those who believe they are never wrong or believe they

know more than anyone else, should be taught that EVERYONE is perfectly imperfect,

and it’s ok to be wrong, that is how we learn. (You know I’m all about life lessons and

learning from our mistakes or from being incorrect.)

I write a lot about learning from our mistakes and being incorrect. I cannot stress

enough the importance of acknowledging when you do something wrong or made an

incorrect statement. Our life is one big lesson which does not take time off. When we

sit in a quiet room alone, we are thinking about life lessons, you may not realize it, but

a person has over thirty-thousand thoughts in a day, that is a lot of thinking that we

don’t realize we do. Our mind even works while we sleep by dreaming and other

unknown thinking, our mind never seems to rest.

Sometimes our judgement is clouded because we are expected to be perfect (in our own

eyes and in the eyes of those who expect perfection because they don’t understand the

meaning of perfectly imperfect.) Think back on the times you failed at something. Did

you become upset with yourself and feel like you were a failure, or did you smile and

think to yourself, “I am perfectly imperfect, now…what can I learn from this and how

can I improve myself?” Please do not expect yourself to learn and be perfect at

something, there is always room for learning and improving. Trust me when I say, “NO

ONE IS PERFECT” So, on this last note I’d like you to practice saying “I am perfectly

imperfect, I love to learn, If I fail…I will learn from it and move on to better myself as

I am….PERFECTLY IMPERFECT.”

When you feel the need to judge someone, please remind yourself that EVERYONE is

perfectly imperfect and they too may be working on learning lessons in life. Some

people may be slow learners and need to fail numerous times before understanding

what it is they need to work on. Learning life lessons are lessons that never end. We

can give grace to those struggling through their life lessons and help them out or we

can graciously take advice from others without judgement, we can all progress through

life working on living the best life we can perfectly imperfect.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSc(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counseling