I used to worry what others thought of me, how I looked, the job I had, what I drove, if my house was clean enough, was I dressed properly, what my weight was, my complexion, and the list goes on and on. What a waste of time I spent thinking about all of these things. I mean….I still have to work on some of these things like, I still worry that I am presentable or not if someone just happens to stop by the house unannounced. I am working hard at that one at the moment. I know those who come to visit me are not going to judge me on my appearance or what my house looks like. Ok….for real, yesterday I never got out of my pajamas and I vegged out on the couch all day watching the Hallmark movie channel. I had dirty dishes in the sink and I, at times, thought…what if someone comes over???? I would be so embarrassed, but I didn’t change a thing. I smiled at myself and realized I deserved a day of relaxation.

I have to admit, if I would have stopped by a friend’s house and she was in her pajamas at two in the afternoon, I would first worry about her, but then I would smile and be so proud of her for being HER and doing what she wanted to that day. So….yes…we are all a work in progress and we all will have issues to work on. The most important thing to remember is to WORK ON IT, if it bothers you. I can’t remember the last time I actually didn’t do anything all day long and I loved it so much. I didn’t even cook yesterday, I just picked at whatever I had in the fridge and cupboards.

When I was younger most of my friends were very well off and I was married to someone who, I felt, needed to have the best of the best and if a friend got something, we got it too. Now that I think about it, it was almost comical to say the least. When we start to compare ourselves to others and what they have, what they look like, and how they live their life……that is when we need to take a step back and evaluate if we are jealous or envious. Either way, ask yourself if you really need what that person has or mimic what that individual is doing…. If you do, what can you do to achieve your desire? But, do not feel ashamed over these feelings….work on your feelings to make your life the life YOU desire, not what you believe others believe you should be like to fit in.

My point for this post is… We need to be loved for who we are, not what we have compared to others or what job we have. Because of my vocal cord paralysis, I can no longer work at a job which requires me to talk a lot, which was a job I loved and thrived doing. I now work at Amazon and although this job is physically demanding, I do not have to talk and I feel like I am getting paid to work out, which I totally enjoy. At first I was embarrassed saying I worked at a factory as I have been a counselor/social worker/life-coach for a very long time. I still write my blog and counsel/life-coach via internet email, but I no longer can work where I use my voice for eight hours. I really enjoy working at Amazon and doing everything else. I’m proud that I didn’t give up, nor do I feel ashamed that I work at a factory. I’m actually very proud that I have such amazing work ethics.

Never feel ashamed for what you do or what you have. Be proud and if you can’t be proud…It’s time to reevaluate yourself and make changes you can be proud of for you….Not for anyone else. Stand proud for who you are and be strong. We have one life to live, live your life without shame, jealousy or regret. Spend a day in your Pj’s and reflect and relax, Bella and I sure did enjoy it.

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Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSC(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counseling