We all have a different vision when we think of beauty. What may be beautiful to one person, may not be beautiful to another. Hence the say, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” You can honestly find beauty in everything, even things you don’t think are beautiful. For example, I think spiders are so creepy, but they make beautiful webs, if there were no spiders, there would be no webs. Don’t get me wrong, it freaks me out to walk into a web with my face, but when I see a web with dew on it, it’s so beautiful to me. Without spiders, there would not be those interesting and beautiful webs.

Life is beautiful, except when we think nothing is going as we planned. What is needed to be learnt when we feel like life is handing you nothing but “ugly,” is how can we make that ugly into something beautiful. We can always turn something around, it’s all in our mindset. I’m going to be very open with you all here. I was sexually abused as a child and never would I have thought anything beautiful would come of it. I became a stronger individual, I didn’t let it “break” me, which is a very beautiful thing in my eyes. Yes, it broke me until I found my strength to move on and not let that period in my life control the rest of my life.

I am just starting to open up about the sexual abuse in my life as I pushed the event so far down within me I ignored the ugly as much as I possibly could. The man that sexually abused me was still winning because I kept letting the thoughts of the event ruin me. I am now in control, I have learned to trust again, I have gained amazing self-esteem, I have let go of my anger, and my life is beautiful. I am using my experience to help others gain back control of their life after being sexually abused. Trust me when I say….I wish the sexual abuse wouldn’t have happened to me or happen to anyone else, but life does not always deal us a winning hand, and how we play our cards is how we can overcome the ugliness that life deals us at times. We CAN make our life beautiful. If anyone who has been sexually abused continues to dwell on what happened to them, the abuser will continue to have control over them/us.

We will always experience some ugly in our life, it’s how we react to the ugly that makes the difference. It’s like a pimple…you can ignore the pimple and give it some love and keep it clean and it will go away, or you can pop it, have the pimple fester, then continue to pick the scab where it soons become a scar, which will remind you of where it was for a very long time. Ignore the ugly and concentrate on the beauty life can offer you or how you can change the ugly into a beautiful lesson.

Changing the ugly into something beautiful is hard work, but well worth the work we put in. If you need help taking the appropriate steps to help you achieve finding the beauty within the ugly, please do not hesitate to contact me and I would be happy to help. We are individualists and what may work for one person may not work for another, which is why counseling someone is structured for them and not as a cookie cutter process.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Alexis BSC(Psyc), MILC

Holistic Life Coach & Counseling