Life can be full of blame. When we become uncomfortable with our actions, we blame something and/or someone because blaming someone/something else helps us feel better about ourselves and what has gone wrong. We have all done the blame game to help us feel better about the situation. Being accountable for what is going wrong in our life is so hard, sometimes we feel and/or believe if we blame something not quite right in our life…our life will change. Guess what friends…..when we blame, we put a bandage on what we could be learning from.

I am not a fan of people blaming other people for what goes wrong in their life. I used to be one of those people and I am very proud to say…. I can accept what I have done wrong and learn from these errors. Accepting that I did something wrong means I have taken great responsibility in my actions while learning not to continue the groundhog day’s effect of blaming others or something. Accountability is so rewarding when we recognize it.

Accountability was scary for me back in the days. Blaming others for my actions seemed so much easier than accepting my actions. I now analyze the consequences from my behavior and what I can do to change the outcome. This is scary at first, but then becomes a permanent part of your life that is almost like a game, a game you want to win. 

Once the blaming starts with friends, family, or coworkers, we begin to feel resentment towards that individual. When the resentment starts, anger builds up inside us and sooner than later…the one being blamed will explode, or the opposite….become angry within, holding the anger inside while feeling defeated and alone. Blaming friends, family members and/or coworkers continuously will inevitably make the one being blamed want to walk away from the relationship or job.

The person who always blames others for their actions will never learn the word, “accountability,” as they will always feel as though others are to blame for their unhappiness. The blamer uses others as a defense  mechanism, the blamer tends to believe they do nothing wrong because they are so used to blaming others for their wrong doing. The blamer will never learn accountability or life lessons when something goes wrong in their life.

Learning to admit errors/mistakes we make in life teaches us to respect ourselves and learn accountability. Is admitting you were wrong scary???? Yes, indeed it is, but after continuously admitting we were wrong or made an error….we stop blaming and start enjoying life completely. We recognize our strengths and work on our weaknesses without blaming others.

Life lessons are not always easy, but they are always worth learning.

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Holistic Life Coach & Counseling