Oh boy….I have tried to fit in all my life up until recently. Sometimes I still have to remind myself that it’s ok if I don’t fit in or get asked to participate in something a friend/family member is doing. Does my heart break a little, absolutely, but I’m not everyone’s cup of tea…lol…it’s true. You can’t always fit in. Can you imagine if you were the most popular person around and all the invites, phone calls, text messages, and visits you would get….You would never get anything done. Life is a balancing act and trying to fit in with all the people you would love to be with, may tilt your balanced life over the top, which would make it where you would lose yourself into other’s fun adventures all because you want or need to feel important.  

We can’t make people love us, like us or even care about us, but if you have enough self love, laughter, determination and strength…Your world will be filled with just the right amount of people who love you as much as you do. It is important to not allow people to make you feel smaller than them or not as worthy. Only you can allow these feelings….so…GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD and don’t feel like you are always trying to win a popularity contest. 

We have to remember we all have our own thoughts on what is really important to us when it comes to feeling good about ourselves. Sometimes we set our sights too high on how others think of us. We wonder, “why wasn’t I invited, what don’t they like about me, did I upset someone in the group that was invited.” Valid questions, but a waste of your time to try and figure out. Here is where you can step up and have a get-together of your own and invite those you would like to spend time with…..Did you invite everyone you know????? Probably not, and that’s ok, you can invite others the next time. Do you see my point? Some people you didn’t invite to your event may feel the same as you do when you are not invited. Such a waste of our precious mind. 

Do you get invited to all family member’s get-togethers or every co-worker’s get-togethers? Again….you would have no life if you were to be invited to everyone you know events. My point is, we can’t fit in with everybody and we can’t make anybody care about us as we may care about them. We all have our reasons for doing what we do. Yes….not being invited hurts our feelings at times, this is when we need to learn from those feelings. 

Life is not a popularity contest. Life is to be full of self-love and enjoying the life you have created. You are in control of your get-togethers. If someone doesn’t show up that you invited…they probably had other plans and couldn’t make it to your invite or they just wanted to spend time at home. They are keeping their life in balance and that is all that matters. 

When you are not invited to a friend/family’s get-together…THAT IS A’OK. Make your own plans and enjoy life. If someone doesn’t come to your invite, THAT IS A’OK also. You dwelling on the uninvite or the fact that someone couldn’t make it to your invite is only hurting you. Spending too much time trying to figure out why is a waste of precious life time. Move on and do something fun on your own or with other friends/family members.  You will learn how great life can be when you don’t worry about what other people are doing or if they are having more fun than you. Fitting into your life is worth everything….including health and happiness. 

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons, 

Alexis

Alexis Life Coach Inner Abilities LLC

Holistic Life Coach & Counseling