Have you ever found yourself so upset that you say things that you don’t mean, but deep down inside you might mean them? I think a lot of us do. We release mean words based on fear and anger. Fear of losing something that you really love when you feel challenged. We sput words because the pressure seems to be beyond what some of us can handle. It take a lot of self-discipline to control what we say when we are either; hurt, mad, put-down, or overwhelmed.

You know that feeling when you are so overwhelmed you say things just to make you feel like you don’t care? The reason you act as if you don’t care is because, you care tremendously. I have done this, as many of you have, and I’m not proud of it. I think there is a fine line of being taken advantage of by friends, family, or work, and doing everything you can to keep everyone happy (huge issue I am still working on, but aren’t we all a work in progress?) When someone puts most or all they have into either helping others, during work, or in a relationship, and are not either acknowledged or are asked continuously to do more…..we break and out sputs words of frustration.

Our mind can only handle so much stress/pressure until we break and say unnecessary words and think unnecessary thoughts. This is the time to take a “time-out,” go for a little walk outside, hide in your bedroom, lay down on your bed and just breath, write down your words of frustration and then burn them. If you are driving and other drivers are driving you bonkers, turn up your favorite music and sing at the top of your lungs….this will destress you, and make you laugh usually, road rage is not the answer.

As I have always enforced, we can only control our own emotions and the words that come out of our mouth. When we say things to try and hurt someone as they have hurt us, we are giving into that individual, we are reacting just the way they would love for us to react. You know the phrase, “Kill them with kindness,” well…..what are you waiting for? Calmly sput out those words of kindness and move on. Is this an easy task to do? Heck no, but is it worth it, yes.

Just one more lesson I would like to include today. We have to learn to move on without letting someone’s actions or words consume our thoughts continuously, because if we continue to think about the words or actions that hurt you, that person won power over you. Who wins when they don’t argue and say unkind words????? You win and you are a winner!!!

Trust the Journey and Life Lessons,

Alexis

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