I have so much I can say about this heading. There is no way in heck that people can’t take something done or said personally that hurts you, unless they have no feelings. You know the type that can let everything roll off their back like water on a duck. Yea…that’s not me. I try not to take what some people say or do to me personally by thinking to myself, “they must be going through a bad time,” but it is their actions and/or words that can still hurt at times.

Can I get pass it? Most of the time I can, sometimes it takes days, sometimes it takes years, and then sometimes it can take a lifetime. I have been the giver and the taker of some hurtful events and statements. I have learned from these behaviors and although I dislike these behaviors, I still find myself doing them at times, but they are less and less as I get older and wiser. Please don’t ask me what age you start getting older and wiser (wink), it’s different with each person.

I have talked about this topic in different blogs, but for different reasons. I have learned many valuable lesson. In the past, I have taken the actions of others so personally I would have a form of “flight” because these actions gave me anxiety. I understand now that I don’t have to continue to associate with these people, but I thank them for lessons I have learned by their actions and words. This is why I say, don’t take it personally, it could be a blessing. People have motives and sometimes those motives are to gain for themselves, they think, by hurting others.

I remember someone saying to me, “copying someone is a sign of flattery.” To this day I still remember her saying that to me. I am so grateful she did. Funny how something said to me decades ago that hurt my soul, now I cherish those words and smile when someone copies me. At first when someone does the copying you may tend to take it personal, but then after thinking about it, you begin to realize how awesome you must be for that person to have copied you. This becomes a blessing in disguise later on.

The hard part in life is taking what someone does or says not so personal. I have distanced myself from people who have hurt me with their words, lack of words, or their actions, and have found my life much more enjoyable. Having the strength to move forward is a blessing, having strength to ignore individual’s insecure actions, or their jealousy, is also a blessing. I have found that people attack people with words or actions out of jealousy. I’ve been there done that, we all have. You can only give someone so many chances until you need to move on. I’ve been on both sides and being mean, jealous, rude, and degrading to someone else is not flattering.

The lesson here for me is to smile when I block, delete, ignore, or move on when someone does something that personally hurts me. No one has to continue to be hurt by others actions. We should all learn from these actions so we don’t mimic the same behavior…..why is that….because it’s not attractive for anyone (wink). Why do I call it a blessing, because we are blessed by loving people in our lives, not ones who hurt you or pretend they are someone they really are not.

My life is peaceful now. I am always learning how to love hard on those who love me, understand those who do not, and how to walk away gracefully with peace of mind. I so love life lessons.

Trust the Lessons and Life Jorney,

Alexis