Most of us are molded into believing we should be a certain way. This starts when we are born. We are taught how to behave right away. Sometimes we are taught to be proper and respectful, some of us fend for ourselves and try to be the best we can be. As we grow, we try to fit in with certain groups. I know I was always jealous of the popular kids, smart kids, and kids that had amazing parents.

As I grew I met people who tried to outdo others, even their friends. You know the saying, “Keeping up with the Jones’s.” I was married to someone like that and I have to say…..That’s just not my style. Just because someone has the best car, best house, best clothes, and best “so called” friends, does not mean they are who they want to be. Most people who try to keep up with the Jones’s have difficulty realizing what really makes them happy.

I have realized that I don’t need to be embarrassed anymore because don’t fit in with everyone else, who….I thought I needed to be just like. I am me and I love me. I curse at times, spend money on silly things, and I would rather go on a trip and make memories than buy fancy clothes or jewelry. But, that is because I am me. If you love all those fancy clothes and they make you feel good because you love it, than that’s great. Just don’t wear those fancy clothes and expensive jewelry because you want to outshine your friends or be someone you aren’t inside.

Be you and believe in you. How do you know you believe in yourself and you are who you want to be? Let me give you an insight…..If you believe in you and love who you are, you will not try to be better than your friends or the Jones’s. You will compliment without brining up that you have the same thing, or something better. You will let people shine and be who they are without being better than them or being jealous of them. If you are jealous over what someone has or does then you are not being you or believing in yourself.

Once you believe in yourself you’ll accept people for who they are, not what they have. You’ll not feel you have to be better than others because you will be who you want to be. This process is a continuous process because jealously creeps up on us at times. How you deal with the jealously is up to you, you can be you and believe in yourself, or you can try to be someone you’re not and always be envious. The choice is yours.

Trust the Journey,

Alexis